Relatively aware that this year (2013, a numerical that still seems a tenuous appendage to the Timeline I grew up with) has by now existed for 22 days, I found it a reasonable endeavor to begin a blog, and to begin that blog with my “resolutions” for this year. (I put resolutions in quotes, because I know like most humans I probably will retain these as delectable sentiments, but may indeed, alas, succumb to routine in the end.) But like the sway of my twice-yearly trip to the dentist, when I feel damned gung-ho about flossing, I will use the arbitrary passage through calendar days as a means of self-motivation. Plus, I went easy on myself and made all of my goals pretty achievable.
Here, readers, I present you with my intimate list of self-betterment. May you find some personal inspiration in this list, and may the determination to publish these words keep my actions in the following months uncomfortably conscious:
Julie’s New Year’s Resolutions
- Establish a balance between the creative and the consumptive. (More on this later.)
- Write routinely (even if the result is unsatisfactory or negligible).
- Exercise more, snack less.
- Develop a positive self-image.
- Be friendlier; renew communication with meaningful relations.
- Go outside more.
- Be more present in the world.
- Give away/sell extraneous possessions.
I had remembered incorrectly that there were ten items on this list, but now recall not having a tenth idea at the time this was written, and not willing to sacrifice authenticity for the sake of round numbers–a strange obsession many of us seem to possess (the rule of threes, anyone?), and which I have been attempting to subvert in my writing.
So, how am I doing, you ask?
Here’s the breakdown so far:
1. Establish a balance between the creative and the consumptive.
My initial plan was to begin this blog with a discourse on the importance of balance, but then felt it would be beneficial to refer to my goals for this year, and upon realizing the amount of digression I would need to include in that first entry, felt it would be simpler to itemize these aspirations first. Keep a lookout for this entry, as I plan to make it far more interesting than this one.
2. Write routinely (even if the result is unsatisfactory or negligible).
Well, I suppose one can say that by starting this blog, I’ve already accomplished that unequivocally, even down to the unsatisfactory and negligible subcategories.
Joking aside, I resolved to begin a blog because I was finding it difficult to write about things and felt it might be easier to write about thinks. The goal here is to write, and write I shall.
3. Exercise more, snack less.
We’ll come back to this one in a few months.
4. Develop a positive self-image.
I’ve already cut out the verbal self-deprecating remarks by at least 50%. But the ceasing of the nonverbal and darkly borderline psychoses will likely be concurrent with resolution #3.
5. Be friendlier; renew communication with meaningful relations.
The placement of these two seemingly related objectives within the same resolution now seems a tad ill-advised. I have already made a conscious (and successful!) effort to emerge from my dusky hermitage and involve myself socially with dear friends and family.
However, (and this is perhaps due to overstaying my welcome in the spiritually unsatisfactory and vertically immobile role of part-time customer service representative) I feel that I have become hardened like a salty old sea dog. Nor did my year-long stint as a substitute teacher bequeath upon me the sunny disposition towards others that I strive for. My amiability dwindled the more worldly wise I became, the more aware I grew of the crumminess of people. With that experience, though, I came to know also the beauty of others, and how engaging meaningfully (and positively) with strangers can spread the types of energy waves that we all wish were more abundant in this world. It is that dogma I resolve to keep in mind as the year flows on.
(And it surely didn’t help that I started this year on my period.)
6. Go outside more.
This seems simple, but it is not. Especially in New England when half the year is winter. So, it goes without saying that I have not made progress on this one. But it’s so darn important, I might just post it on my wall. Maybe my tenth resolution will be to put up a bulletin board.
I did this! I did this!
8. Be more present in the world.
I feel like I’m breaking the rules by starting a cyber version of my cave to curl up in, but being PRESENT in the PRESENT is what I’m really getting at. Doing things, and spending less time…not doing things. Making eye contact. Touching trees and rocks and things. Related, in a way, to resolution Nos. 5 & 6.
9. Give away/sell extraneous possessions.
I started this yesterday, when I realized I needed more room on my bookshelves for my books, and less for Build-a-Bears that old friends and flames made me a decade ago. Also, I used to save all my old toys believing one day I might have children that I would so graciously bestow these treasures upon, but I have become of a new mind in two ways: 1.) I no longer believe it is a viable destiny of mine to bear children. (Stretch marks? No, thanks.) 2.) If my biological clock suddenly starts ticking away towards doomsday, and I DO eventually want and/or need kids, I’ve realized all the little bastards will want is the newest digital-virtual eye sensor chips that can project simulations of Legos and Playmobils unto the world.
The most important piece of this resolution, though, is to simplify. I have so much stuff and very little space, and I’ve been finding, in the words of Virginia Woolf, that I do indeed need a room of my own in order to write.
Oh, and money. Always money.